There is an old philosophical question “If a tree falls in a forest and no one is there to hear it, does it make a sound?” My answer to you is that of course it does make a sound. What you say matters whether or not anyone else is around to hear it. What you think matters too. You are to conduct yourselves at good and honorable people, examples of Christians in the world. Sometimes you will get angry. Sometimes you will hit your thumb with a hammer and you will want to curse. When I have been the most frustrated; in a car, in the basement, in the woods, those times when I thought I could swear like anything and no one could hear me anyway, someone is always around to hear me. Sometimes it is my husband, sometimes a stranger, sometimes a friend, sometimes a child who just happens to walk into the situation where I think I’m alone and no one can hear. I really regret the times when I indulge in venting and fowl language. It is always unbecoming of a Christian and reflects poorly on me. When you are angry, say you are angry. When you need to vent, vent in a constructive way. Hold your tongue and go for a run or just take a deep breath and ask Jesus to help you to handle the feelings that you are having. Your feelings aren’t wrong. The permission that you give yourself to vent, curse, or act out is what is wrong.
Also, never, ever talk badly about another person. The sarcastic comedy that has permeated our society for the last 40 years has just gotten worse and worse. It has become so lewd and unrighteous that it is hard to find kindness in any man or woman. We are asked by Jesus to love one and other. We are also asked to love our enemies. When we find it impossible to love, we can ask Jesus for help. When we fail, we ask Jesus to forgive us. Admit when you are wrong and ask for forgiveness from each other. Pray for those who you find most frustrating. They need our prayers.
Oh God, help me to say yes when I mean yes and no when I mean no. Help me to speak with grace and dignity. Help me to hold my tongue and choose to handle my feelings in constructive ways. Help me to see you in each person and love them. Help me never to speak harshly about another but to be charitable and forgiving. I can do these things through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.